Which communication styles do you use?
4 types of communication styles
- Aggressive
- Passive/Submissive
- Passive-aggressive
- Assertive communication
What is assertive communication?
Assertive communication style is an open form of communication in which we openly communicate our feelings, thoughts, and desires. Assertive communicators represent themselves in a way that the importance of relationship is taken into account and other’s interests are also being paid attention to. If we use assertive language we create a win-win situation.
Why is assertive communation good for me?
Assertiveness helps the other party to understand your point of view, your desires. If you communicate as such, you represent yourself and your values that are important to you. Assertiveness can as well increase your self-esteem as you represent yourself and your values, your emotions. If you communicate assertively the result may not be what you wanted. But at least your partner knows how you are feeling.
However, assertive communication can be inconvenient because this open communication style also involves opening up and taking on vulnerabilities, but it pays off in the long run.
How to communicate assertively? Use assertive phrases beginning with “I”:
I feel that …, I think…, I want to…, I need that…
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